1) Septum purge flow shuld have a vendor reccomendation - check the user manaual. If you can not find it, you only need a low flow rate to keep junk from the seppptum out of the inlet. This will be in the neighborhood of 1 to 3 mL/min.
2) Septum purge depends on A) the flow rate through the column and b) the discrimination you can tollerate. Using with an estimation of the volume of your liner and the column flow rate, determine how long it takes for gas to move gas from one end of the linter to the other. Thiat is your first estimate. If you are trying to resolve peaks close to the solvent, you may need to go for shorter time. If you need to avoid discrimination, then go longer. And expect the solvent tail to grow.
3) purge flow should be enough to clear residucal solvent out of the inlet so that it no longer taills in the chromatogram - This should be a flowrate that will move gas from one end of the liner to the other in a few seconds. This depends on how close your analytes are to the solvent peak. I use 35 ml/min in some work I am doing - but the analytes I am looking for are well away from the solvent peak.
4) total gas flow is the sum of the gas flows you set
Optimization of the inlet conditions - for serious work, yes.
And I am sure that someone with experience with the FPD will post shortly, but until then...
For the FPD, start with the parameters in the user manaual. Check the manual to see the sensitivity of the detector to operating conditions.