You make me smile, because you continue to give me opportunities to tell you about my book (HPLC Columns):
The information that you are after can be found in Chapter 15, Preparative Chromatography, pages 276-295. A good paper on the real-life loadability of real columns with real samples can be found in Journal of Chromatography, Volume 1030, Issues 1-2, 19 March 2004, Pages 123-134; title: Differences in preparative loadability between the charged and uncharged forms of ionizable compounds; authors: Uwe Dieter Neue, Thomas E. Wheat, Jeffrey R. Mazzeo, Cecilia B. Mazza, Jie Y. Cavanaugh, Fang Xia, Diane M. Diehl
Since you are running gradients, you can load up to about 5 mg per mL of packed bed, if all your compounds are not charged. If some or most of your compounds are charged, expect to load 20 times less. Also, expect to load much less if you are doing isocratic chromatography, in both cases. The statement includes a slight overload.
Going back to your continued question about particle size: your peaks on the larger particle size are wider to start. You will have overloaded your higher performing column to a much higher degree before you end up with the same inferior plate count as the column with the larger particle size. Look at the pictures in my book to understand why this is the case. The lesson is that you will get better results at equal loss of resolution from the column with the smaller particle size. Only when you completely overload the column, will it not make any difference any more how good the column was to start with.