To a good first approximation, the particle size affects primarily the efficiency (band broadening) in the column and has little effect on retention or selectivity. Pore size affects primarily retention and selectivity, with a weaker effect on efficiency (primarily for large molecules).
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For the majority of packings, the pore size is independent of the particle size (typical pore sizes might be 10-30 nm, a typical particle size might be 2 - 10 μm). Pore sizes are specified for the silica substrate before bonding. In the case of something like a C18 column, the bonded phase could conceivably fill a substantial fraction of something like a 10nm pore.
The pore size is inversely related to the specific surface area of the packing (usually expressed in m^2/g). Larger-pore materials have less surface area, hence provide less retention and (usually) different selectivity compared to smaller-pore materials.