Flow should not matter unless you go fast enough to get turbulent flow (and even then it may not matter very much) Given that you are using vacuum or a hand syringe to move the solvent through the cartridge, don't worry about it. The volume is much more important.
Ideally, a wash solvent will be weak enough to provide essentially zero elution of the compounds of interest. In that situation, the volume is not critical, assuming that you have at least enough to completely displace the previous solvent (in other words, better to use a bit too much than too little). If in doubt, it's easy enough to do a couple of "quick-and-dirty" experiments with your system and see what happens.